It's hard when you have been through some harsh situations in life and it ends up really effecting you.
Its not easy when your going through it alone, now it doesn't matter how big or small your situation, your struggling, you don't feel yourself, its like inside you truly have no desire to work on yourself because the pain is to strong. I am here to help you. To help give you tips that truly has helped me but most of all STILL helps me.
There is always room for growth so I'm improving and creating new ways to build more strength and focus on myself.
No-one will love you the way you love yourself and I know thats been said quite often but to be honest it is the truth. I have had my share of relationships and I have definite had my share of heart breaks. I tell you this, the biggest lesson I've learned was to never lose ME. Never stop taking care of me. The more I take care of myself the more prepared I am for struggles. When you feel more secure in who you are and what your capable of doing there is nothing you can't accomplish, and when times get rough you can get through them.
Now feeling beautiful again is all about starting from inside-out. You can't put makeup on, get a new hair-do and still be bitter and unhappy inside. I know people who rather spend hundreds of dollars on their clothes and their appearance but inside they are still mean and unhappy.
10 Ways To Feeling Beautiful Again
B Balance Your Time
It's important to do the things you love that helps you feel good. Brings you joy and makes you feel like you don't have to worry. Even if it's for an hour, make that time for yourself;It doesn't matter what it is. I am a woman of many talents lol.. So I truly can find something to do that makes me happy. I love to draw or paint, I love DIY projects, I'm obsessed with makeup, I love to write and read poetry. etc...
I try to focus on anything inspirational. Usually I like to write or paint. I don't paint anything negative I look on Pinterest and see what inspires me. Balance is key. I
f you don't make time for yourself, it will be difficult to aim for happiness.
E Edit Your Emotions
I can't express how important this is. To get better, a positive mindset is so important for so many reasons. When you're thinking positive there are positive outcomes right?
It is so important to surround yourself with positive people and environment. if your trying to get yourself on a better mindset but you have a friend, family member, spouse thats negative chances are you will fall back into your bad habits. Of course you can't just get rid of them but limit your time for a little and focus on your thoughts. When they are around be open and communicate what you're going through and right now you need a positive support system through this tough time. If they aren't happy with your choices, well I think you know whats next... I cant tell you what to do but to be honest I didn't have a lot of support from the people I had around me and it really effected me. I felt more lost and confused. So I started listening to motivational speeches and sermons. Reading quotes, I even changed my Instagram and followed people that inspired me. Lisa Nichols, TONY ROBBINS, Sarah Jakes Roberts, Steven Furtick etc.... look them up on you tube.
They were a huge help for me.
Say Yes more... Right now at this very moment you deserve it all. You deserve to be happy, you deserve to be successful and you can make your dreams come true. First stop saying no and being afraid and say YES I CAN DO IT!
YES I WILL have all that I want.
Be very observant of whats around you but also stay focus on YOU. Your movements, thoughts what to stay away from and what makes you feel good. It is so important. Now what helps me stay observant is writing things down life can get hectic. Anything that smells good, helps calm me and helps me get focused. I have natural oils and it really helps me focus on my senses.
The Body Shop is amazing with scents!!
Do I have to explain this in detail? lol
You are unbreakable, unforgettable. You can do the unimaginable but you have to be your biggest strength right now. I know it seems hard right now, I know you don't see a way out but my love there is!!!!
Stay Strong and don't give up....
Now is the time to transform yourself into a new you, prepare yourself for this journey because it will be a challenging one. Your going to be aware of so much with yourself and around you, this is the test if you truly want what belongs to you. To be honest if it really is it doesn't matter the sacrifice because the desire for change, the desire for a new life filled with happiness means more to you than anything else. When the tough times come, like I tell my mom, tunnel vision. Focus on your target and nothing else matters.
Through my transformation I can tell you my days are more good, I'm healing but in the beginning it wasn't easy. Can you believe how hard it is to mourn the lost of someone alive? I have to cry for someone that is alive and ok with how we ended and is ok with living without me. When I planned my whole life with him, But as I move forward I think of how someone changes.... they can love you beyond words and then change. As I learn some people change for the better or for worse. I want to be with someone that will help me grow for the better as he does the same with me. I am huge with uplifting and encouraging my man to be the best that he can be. my reason why I do that is because I want him to see that he is the light of my life and that I will always be his biggest cheerleader. Unfortunately it didn't work out that way. Our issues got bigger than us. I started to transform myself, I had hit rock bottom and I kept thinking, I will not give him or anyone else the satisfaction to see me broken. I will take care of ME because I know I am not perfect, I am aware of my flaws and I want to keep growing. The man God has for me should get nothing but the best for me.
I don't see that happening for a long time, right now it doesn't feel right to me to move on and be with someone else. I don't understand how other people can lol
Right now its all about me for a change, Becoming the BEST version of JULIEVET.
Right now should be the time to transform the BEST version of YOU!!!!
Start Glowing from within!!! My love....You have a second chance at life, at getting whatever your heart desires. Illuminate from within because
YOU ARE AMAZING.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
Can you picture your life running and smiling through a new adventure somewhere?
Can you picture your life walking a beach on a beautiful island? You can be there just BELIEVE
GLOW from inside because you can have that life!!!
LOVE and never stop believing in LOVE.
God still LOVES us without judgment. With our brokenness, with our mistakes he continues to love us unconditionally.
YOUR BEAUTIFUL DON'T GIVE UP
start GLOWING MY LOVE
F Feel Fabulous
Now today your going to start looking at clothes that your afraid of and your going to try them on in the dressing room. lol I started doing this and I promise you it helps. Now I am a single mom, I hardly ever have time for hair and makeup when its time go shopping, but on the days I'm going to the mall andI know I need to buy clothes for whatever crazy reason, I do my hair and makeup. Nothing crazy but a look I know like and feel confident in. It really helps you when your looking for new outfits.
Think about it when your hair is messy or you have a baseball hat which was 90% of the time me..lmao, you have no makeup you already don't feel as confident as usually are....smh But I'm telling you the next time you go shopping try it!!
I usually just do a cute ponytail and of course if I get the time I let my hair out curly or straight, when I do my makeup I just even out my skin tone, contour a little and put on a good mascara or maybe lashes. lol I'm obsessed with lashes, I just love wearing them but for you it is whatever helps YOU feel good. I promise you when you try on new outfits it truly helps. Now next time you go out shopping remember what I said and let me know how your experience was.
Your BEAUTY is YOURS!
Look in the mirror and fall in LOVE with everything unique about you. From your beautiful eyes to the little beauty mark on you cheek.
I have a thousand freckles, I have a scar right above my eyebrow. I tell you this, it took a long time to appreciate my freckles and that scar but to me it's beautiful now. I wear it proudly and I'm not ashamed of it, It's something UNIQUE about me. I except it completely.
Look in the mirror when everyone is sleeping. and if you live alone even better. Now try this, instead of looking at what you want to fix. First look at what you see is unique and fall in love with it. Look deep into your own eyes and tell YOURSELF, your beautiful. You can look at someone else you love deep into their eyes and say beautiful things.
Well now its time to do it for YOU!
L Level Up
This goes hand in hand with Transformation But this is starting new things. Transformation is your personal growth, changing bad habits, starting new routines, getting outside the box with YOU.
Leveling up on whats around you. Rearrange your room, or even your apt, do a SPRING CLEANING in your house, buy something new that you have been wanting. Right now I'm focus on the holidays but I am also trying to re-do my bedroom. I have always focused on the front of the house or my kids room. I never really took the time to do what I truly want to my room and now that I am going through this journey with you, I want a completely new room. Now I am a DIVA lol so I am planning on making my room so GLAM AND SPARKLY IT'S insane.!!! lol
But I don't care because I DESERVE IT. I always put others and everything else before me. and although I will never stop being that way, but I have to always think of myself and make sure I am good and happy too. I am a great woman and I deserve the things I want. SO today YOU deserve everything you want as well. LEVEL UP!!
I spelled out Be-YOU-Tiful with these 10ways for you to understand mostly out of all of this is to BE YOURSELF. There is no greater feeling than being able to be who your are, to act and talk the way you do and to not feel judged by anyone. I have realized so much, what I take from what I've learned in the past few years is that I am a good woman with flaws. I have made mistakes and I have learned and grown. I shouldn't be judged when I don't do horrible things, I am loyal, faithful, loving, dependable and just DAMN AMAZING!!! lol
Be who YOU are and the people that LOVE YOU will except you from head to toe.
If you're feeling alone, you feel like you need more advice or one on one help with what you're going through. Don't hesitate to contact me and ask questions or you just need someone to vent too.
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I will do the best I can to help you getting back on your feet and feeling the BEST VERSION OF YOU!!!
This Song is absolutely AMAZING and I hope it helps you as it has helped me...