OK so lets be honest after a heartbreak we tend to slip into a depression. We cry all day, not wanting to eat and then when we do its the unhealthy foods...lol
I'm giving you a little help and realization on how to help yourself feel beautiful even through the pain.
Now lets be completely REAL... We never get over someone right away and if you are like this then I need you to email me and tell me how you do it...lol
The process of getting over someone is going to take some time and its OK to miss them. I don't understand why this generation is so cold. Everyone suppresses their feelings.
I am not built that way. If I feel, I tell. If I feel I hurt. I think that is the biggest reason why I am still positive, and happy through all the crap I go through. Now my life isn't perfect believe me, I actually meet a lot of people that hurt me and take advantage of my heart but somehow I always bounce back. Somehow I get over it and I keep moving. Now don't get me wrong I have my moments where I still hurt over a situation but it's a passing feeling. The key is to remember its not forever. The pain gets easier. Theres no point on dwelling over someone that isn't dwelling over you. That is not trying to make it work as much as you are. Most of all that is not invested 100% as you are.
Also know who you are... THAT IS SOOOO IMPORTANT!!!!
When you know the kind of woman you are then you know what you can offer and then you know that it's not your loss, it's his. Now yes it still hurts, it will make you insecure because you know your this great person but he treats you as if your not. Except that he's not ready or just not the man for you. If its meant to be it will be and if he really wants you he will do whatever he has to do to get you back and keep you. If he doesn't then he doesn't care. Then move on. It's hard believe me, But you have to remember what you deserve. I had to have one of my best friends remind me of my own advice. lol so trust me this isn't easy but you can def get through this. Now here are 5 ways to help you feel BEAUTIFUL through the pain.
1 Get up in the morning and smile. I know this sounds cheesy but think about it. God gave you another day of life. Which means another chance at life. Smile and tell yourself its going to be better. SELF-Motivation has helped me thorugh some REALLY TOUGH moments in my life. Ask God ask for guidance and healing through this pain. Now if you don't believe in God then smile and just tell yourself today I LUV ME ENOUGH TO MAKE ME HAPPY.
2 Get in the shower blast music that makes you want to dance. or that wont make you cry..lol.
Take an hour, exfoliate, shave everything, wash your hair, put a deep treatment in your hair, brush your teeth,(the regular routine) make the shower as hot as you can take it. Stand there and focus on the heat touching your skin. Focus on how relaxing it feels, breathe in and out. Think of what you want in your future. What makes you smile... and DONT THINK ABOUT HIM..lol for example I think about what makeup I want to buy or what look I want to do or what treatment to buy for my hair lol...
Makes sure every bit of you is extra clean. There is something about me doing a little extra on cleansing myself physically helps me feel renewed. When I get out the shower I feel like I just took off a layer of pain..lol I know I'm weird but try it.
3 moisturize your body, put on your fav bra and undies, spray you fav perfume, look in the mirror and smile at yourself. Put an outfit that makes you feel sexy. CONFIDENCE IS KEY!!
4 Do your hair and makeup the way u love to do it. That makes YOU feel beautiful. Now I know you might get sad already at this point but fight through it. Focus on feeling beautiful for you. What helps me is that I know that he's not thinking about me and he's probably not even sad about it so why the heck am I? I am a very strong woman I hate the fact that a man can think he can break me, so I work hard to fight through it because I don't want him to win. I AM THE CHAMPION, I ALWAYS WIN! And if he lost something great then ill just show him. I wont give him the satisfaction of seeing me gain 30 pounds, crying, and especially looking like crap. Heck no. Life is short and I'am BEAUTIFUL. He will not take my beauty.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!! DONT LET HIM WIN!!!!
5 so now your all ready right... look in the mirror and admire what you just did. Look at yourself and smile. Be proud that you got up today, pushed through the pain and got yourself up to get ready. Now think about this, if you did this today, Why can't you do this everyday? Why cant you make this a routine?
If you do this everyday you will start to see that smile more and it wont be forced. It will be natural. and when you look in that mirror after a month, be freaking proud because your a survivor. You won.
Even if he doesn't know it who cares!!! You're not broken. Your putting the pieces back together FOR YOU. Your becoming more beautiful because YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE. Your not depending on someone to make you feel that way.
If you're hurting right now cry, let it out. It helps to cry out the pain. You're releasing feelings, You're letting go of someone that was close to you. You're getting use to not saying their name, texting them or seeing their face or even hearing their voice. BUT you lived before him and now you will live without him. He was just a chapter in your life and if he wants to be in the whole book he will do whatever it takes to be in it. so keep living... Now get up, follow these steps and go to work or somewhere that you can keep your mind occupied. Don't miss a day of work, don't cancel on anything. Push through it. Give yourself one day to lay in bed and cry your heart out but after that don't be in that bed depressed. No man that can deal with hurting you and not want to heal that pain deserves to have your precious tears. #ItStartsWithYou
Feel free to email me on how the process is going. I love to read your emails. We can't always get through things alone. We often need motivation. And if you added a new step or tried a new one send it over maybe your step can help someone else. Theres a lot of heartbroken women that need it.
Pushing through the pain made me see a new woman I never knew I could be. Lost 50 pounds eating healthier, I'm wiser, smarter and happy with myself. I have my moments. But I'm ok with not being perfect. I still believe in love. I'm more positive and I aim for success. If I survived, you will... DONT GIVE UP!!