I have had conversations with many women about this subject. I have decided to talk about this after a article I read and then remembering some of my friends relationships that have failed because of this. This subject is very emotional, frustrating and most of all confusing. So ladies "Does our vagina make a happy relationship/marriage?
Many of us women have fallen into a depression from this subject. Feeling like a piece of meat is not something we have always imagined when we dream of being in a happy relationship. You always thought of having a partner, best friend and lover to be everything you wanted. Your hopes would be that he is compassionate, understanding, honest, loving and most of all supportive. There are many others that come in effect like respect, faithful, etc.. The list goes on..lol...
When you feel like you met the man of your dreams, the man to heal all of your pain from your past relationships. Everything is going amazing, even through the tough times you see this man better then any rich man on the earth. He's working in a office as a receptionist and you see him as CEO of a huge company...lol, Thats how amazing this relationship is going. Sex is AMAZING because you have no kids to take care of, so all you have time is for each other. You both work and when you get home, have as much sex as you can and then try to fit in some talking. After 2 years your telling yourself this man is who I want to spend the rest of my life with. I want to marry him and have children. So after you get engaged, something amazing happens. You find out your pregnant!!! Just more icing to the cake!!!
Then after your first trimester your experiencing this extreme pain after sex. As if someone just lit your vagina on fire. After a few tries you start to just feel like sex is not on the list. As your belly grows your nose swells, your back and hips hurt, you feel like you look like Shrek's wife Fiona. So as weeks go by you see a change in his moods, he's less nice to you, he gets angry quick and omg does he get into a bad mood when you tell him not today hun. More weeks go by and you both are going at it like cats and dogs. You try to tell him how painful it is to have sex and all he's worried about is getting his nut off. After you have your beautiful baby girl you think all the problems go away. BUT IT DOESNT.
Months go by and your so overwhelmed because your back at work, taking care of your new baby and trying to uphold your house so by the end of the day your bed is more important then anything else, even doing your hair that you haven't washed in 2 weeks...lol. You see how less loving he is still, no matter what you do doesn't make him happy because he's not getting any. Ever since you had the baby your sex drive is low because your exhausted from everything, and you haven't lost any of the baby weight so feeling sexy is not happening. You try to explain that but all he is still worried about getting his nut off. You start to feel like sex is a job, an obligation rather then something you both want to share and enjoy. You lose interest because you have to force yourself to want to do it to please him, that you start to become numb about everything. So now your relationship is going down hill because of your vagina. Your doing everything for him, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the baby ALL THE TIME, and in an argument he says none of this is worth it. He's not happy with his life because of one thing that isn't going well right now. He tells you what you fear the most. He tells you that if things don't get better he will eventually cheat on you. How do you react to that? How do you get up the energy to try and save your relationship? A man that is willing to stick his penis in another woman for that 5 min pleasure and ruin a family, a love you thought you both had. Is this love? Does he really really love me? How do I stay with this man? How could this be the man I fell so deeply in love with? All these things are going through your mind and then You try to reassure him that it will get better once things fall into place that its just a faze but he hears none of that. He's worried about right now. So how do you fix all of this? How do you handle doing everything for a man and because sexually you cant be there he sees you as basically nothing.
Your insecurity level goes way down because you look at yourself in the mirror and you question yourself whether he's with you for you and what you do for him or is he with you because your a vagina at home that he can have sex with every night. you start to think is a man is really willing to do everything for a woman for sex every night and not to have a companion to grow old with.. It confuses you, It emotionally drains you and you start to not even worry about your appearance because in the end the man you once wanted to look good for doesn't care about anything not even you because your not pleasing him. He stops buying you things, he stops talking to you about your feelings and you even realize you both haven't even really had a whole good day together. Your dream guy changed because physically you had a change that he couldn't understand. You walk in this house you built together and you feel worthless. You feel as if you have no place in this house because you don't have any sex drive. No matter how many times you have tried to have sex he still isn't happy because your not trying to please him, Your not making the first move, your not being fun anymore. Yet he doesn't know all the insecurities he has caused you to build up. He does nothing to fix it he just continues to blame you. He continues to make you feel less of a woman, less of a future wife, less of anything for that matter. All because of your vagina.
so ladies Is our vagina the only way to having a man with us forever? Whats your opinion?
Hope you ladies enjoyed this story. I felt the need to write about it. I didn't know how common this was until I read about it. I started to wonder if theres any women out there going through this and needing someone to talk about or just wanting to read about it and feel like your not alone. Well your not alone there are so many other women going through these situations and to be honest you can overcome it. Make sure you always make the best decisions for you and your life and if you have kids for theirs as well. Sometimes asking for help is the best thing. I know its hard but try to tell yourself a few times a day that your beautiful and your worth it. That your not just a piece of meat. That your a women lucky to have forever.