Self-Motivation is SOOOOO HARD!!!
Its hard when you dream of something and it doesn't go as planned. Its hard to stay strong through it and being let down is so discouraging.
Whatever your putting all your faith in. One thing I have learned from relationships and dream jobs. Never give up! Even when it gets so hard. If you have to put it on hold then take time and think if its really worth putting your all into it for the rest of your life. Don't give up if you know that you haven't put your all into it. You don't ever want to wonder what if and also you don't want to lose it forever and then when your ready to have it back, its too late.
If you are starting your own business or a new job you've wanted for so long, don't give up!! Put your all into it and hard work will pay off. Starting with something new is always challenging and also can stat out slow but you can do it if you truly believe in it. Self-Motivate yourself everyday. Before you go into that meeting, before you make that call to whoever you have to impress or make a deal with. Take a moment and tell yourself that this is meant to be and this will happen because you know its right. Tell yourself whatever you know you need to hear. Believing in yourself is more important and affects you more then anyone else. Remember in the end you can never lie to yourself, disappoint yourself because you know what you can do and you know what you cant. Someone else can tell you that you have a chance but in the end they are just lying. So always believe in yourself and great things will happen.
As for relationships its a little different. When things go wrong its still more of a partnership and team effort. But you can always put your 100% in it so that when its time to walk away you know you gave your all. You don't want to walk away from someone you invested your heart, your time with and then wonder if you had done something else to make it work. If the relationship is going through a faze thats normal. Most people expect relationships to be so perfect. Not realizing at all that relationships is hard work, your time, your heart and your mind puts in all the effort. To invest in that and then just give up is so disappointing. If you see your partner not putting their effort, keep doing your part and then when you've had enough and you know in your heart that you put 1000% then its time to walk away. Just make sure you don't walk away by hurting that person. You don't want anyone to hurt over you because I'm pretty sure you have already hurt over someone else before. Self motivate yourself through the tough times in your relationship. Tell yourself its going to get better and I know its hard especially when its a rough faze your both going through. But remember always staying positive can only cause more positiveness to spread and always showing your partner that your trying is always a great way for them to see you trying. They might even appreciate you more for caring to stick through it rather then giving up. Never give up on your partner especially when they have been more good to you then anyone else. You have to understand that people not only go through things but emotionally there is always a battle that people go through so you cant always expect so much from your partner all the time. Understanding when they cant be there for you. Just be there for them even when its hard because they will always always remember that.
Every relationship is different this advice May not work for you but again always self motivate yourself and tell yourself that it will get better that things will work out and it will. It might take longer then you want but don't give up. Everything great doesn't come easy.
If your in a Domestic Violence relationship think positive and most of all tell yourself you can get out of this. That you deserve better and that there is more to life then this. You are your best cheerleader.